Empty Nest Syndrome

Empty nest syndrome is the overwhelming feeling of loneliness, sadness or even depression that parents feel when their children leave home. It is most common in women, but can affect the men as well. Any person who takes care of a child for nearly two decades may feel like they have no purpose once they are on their own. These feelings are normal, and you are not alone if you feel them.

There are several things you can do to get through these tough times. Start preparing yourself for the day they are all gone before they leave, so it’s not such a let down once it happens. Stay in touch with your family, but don’t live your life around them anymore. It is time for you to go out and start building new friendships with people of your own age group. Find a hobby or pick up on an old one that you enjoyed before having children. Look at the positives of the situation. You don’t need to go grocery shopping as often and there is less laundry to do. You and your spouse can spend more quality time doing things you enjoy together. If you still feel the need to take care of something, you can get a pet.

If feelings of loneliness and sadness still persist, you may need professional help. Talk to your doctor about your feelings and attend counseling sessions. This will help you sort through all your feelings and make sense of it all. Remember that it is a time of change for parents and children and sometimes it can be very difficult. Do not beat yourself up for feeling the way that you do. Even if it takes years, you will eventually feel better about your babies being all grown up.