Relocating Children is ....Reinventing Life!

  American families move a lot it seems, something like one out of five families move per year.  When children are part of the move keeping them "in the loop," soliciting their choices, and including them in the family game plan works miracles toward adjustment.

  Kids under six may worry about being left behind, or being separated from their parents reassure them they are going too. Let them express their feelings and fears about the move. Give them a job to do – like boxing up their favorite toys, and "labeling" their boxes with crayons and stickers.

  Elementary age kids are most concerned the everyday routines of their lives. Show pictures, videos and magazines of the new home and talk about the things to do in the new area.

  Teenagers are concerned about fitting in and may react angrily to the move by declaring they're not going. Everything important in their lives--friends, school & jobs is being disrupted. Making new friends and what will be different in the new school is worrisome to teens. What to wear, hairstyles, bicycles, cars, etc. that kids in the new city will have is concerning to them. Pictures or a trip for a look-see is most helpful.

  Traveling to the new home takes some planning too. For young children make an entertaining travel kit. Give older children a diary for recording the trip & move. Give them a special gift from you. A special address book, stationary set and stamps to keep in touch with old friends is perfect for the gift

  Arrive well before the movers so kids can explore and become acquainted. Keep them involved with a chore, such as working on their room, supervising little siblings, and painting or arranging furniture. Age appropriate of course!

  After the house is somewhat in order take time for some family fun. As soon as possible start exploring your new city together.